I remember, quite some time ago, Gwen saying that her relationship with her now ex was like, “best friends who happened to share children” and I remember that statement really resounding with me. It summed up Rock and I, it seemed and I’ve used her words on numerous occasions while trying to describe what’s happened to my marriage.

I think back to reading that line and wonder, now, how I could ever have identified with the statement. Rock and I couldn’t be further from it. It’s not where we stand at the moment and it almost seems impossible that we ever did.

The truly weird thing…and Gwen, you’ll have to tell me if you differ on this…is that I don’t long for that back. I don’t miss it.

I just want it to be over

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It must be the progression of the end. I wish for all of us in this situation that the end is peaceable for the sake of the kids!Take care. You are not alone

It will get better with time. I promise.

I love you

My cousin went through a tough divorce years ago. They fought over everything and acted like children. However, after all was said and done, he became one of the best fathers I've ever seen. Then the two of them became friends, something they never were when married. It took time though and if I'd asked her during the divorce if she could be friends with him, she would have said, "H*ll No!" It'll get better, Janet so hang in there.

It is time for you to move on.

I've been there, the last year with my ex was like two strangers living in the same house. It's not easy but with time things will be better..

must be all part of the process my darling, because we are past that too and I feel exactly the way you just described (so I'll borrow you're words) It's a compliment that we think and write alike

Been there! It was a tough road in my journey... Hang in there!

comment by pecan on June 13, 2008 4:22 PM ()

Yes.

reply by janetk on June 16, 2008 5:47 AM ()