I feel like I do nothing but moan about my family these days. But I must have done something wrong for them to be the way they are with me. I am ignored, overlooked and generally miss called but still I want to know them and stay in contact.

Take the beginning of the week. It was my sister's 30th birthday. But knowing I wasn't going to manage to see her I posted her card and called to wish her a happy birthday and to let her know that I was still waiting on her present arrive. Because it was a special birthday I put more thought into it and spent more than the usual bottle of wine or cinema voucher. A terramundi money pot - decorated in a colour scheme to match her lounge. Plus a copy of her favourite bedtime story as a child which I managed to source on ebay, it is long out of print. I was quite excited about seeing her face when she opens it but not anymore.

My sisters and I are all on Bebo, sometimes I think that is the only way my youngest sister talks to me - so I ignore her messages and then call her at night to talk but she is usually out at some fitness class or another.

I was on bebo today replying to a message from an old school friend and saw that my sister had added new photos.

These photos were of a party, my sister's 30th party. Where was my invite? How the heck should I know. I haven't made any comments on the fact that there had been a party and my invite had gotten lost. I just left a message to say that her present was still delayed and that I would see her at the weekend. When I called to wish her a happy birthday I was bombarded with questions more because I think they see me as a boring fart and that I do nothing so they ask to kinda gloat. When it was my turn to ask what she did at the weekend I was convieniently told that friends were walking up her drive and that she would need to go. I haven't spoken to her since. I am now not even so sure that there really was anyone walking up the drive!

I really have to try and not let it bother me but I am up for fun as much as the next person but I guess it is not cool to have your older sister ( I am only 33) who is a married mother of 3 at any social gathering where the paricipants kid themselves into thinking they are still 21.

Comments:

I know you are having a bumpy time with your family, but, have you ever thought that at least you 'have' got them? All family's have there 'ups and down's - take it from me, I know!!! I have come to realise one thing - and thats 'being grateful' for what you do, have

I find with small plastic children's toys, like legos, things that all group together or have big pieces, that throwing them in the dishwasher with a bit of Clorox gets them clean and germ free,

Sounds like my Old Sister. Two years ago she arranged a trip to England for herself, our mom and younger sister but do you think anyone invited me? When I complained she said she didn't think I'd be interested. It was a valid point. Knowing that SHE was going, made me not interested but it would have been nice to be invited.

comment by nittineedles on June 26, 2008 12:17 PM ()

You know Margi that is the kind of feeling I get with mine too. I am not aware of being asked to anything and then turn it down for that to be the reason though, but in truth it probably is.

reply by jensgems on June 27, 2008 1:24 AM ()

comment by hayduke on June 26, 2008 9:24 AM ()

I was actually going to do that last night when I went through with her present - but we'd just missed her. She was going to help clean the playgroup toys with two bottles of wine - I thought soap and water would have been more effective - shwe maybe got confused when someone suggested she should clean them with alcohol!!

reply by jensgems on June 27, 2008 1:22 AM ()

I am sorry they treat you that way! I will adopt you as my little sister and promise to invite you to all the boring parties I throw!

comment by elkhound on June 26, 2008 6:34 AM ()

I always wanted to have a big sister - but as i am the oldest it was unlikely!! I don't care if a party is boring it is just nice to be asked

reply by jensgems on June 26, 2008 6:40 AM ()