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  My Friend Bob

Bob Adams is an old friend of mine and I am using his real name here because I wish to pay tribute to him. He’s gone now, smoked himself to an early grave, and I didn’t get to say goodbye to him since I’d long since moved away. But I think about him often and for my entire career in the law was grateful for what he taught me.

Bob was not a lawyer. He was a retired cop from Chicago, a gruff, leather-skinned no-nonsense sort of guy who said what he thought and didn’t think much of anyone. He was an investigator with the Public Defender’s Office in southwest Florida when I first arrived there, still in my 3rd year of law school, to intern. What I learned from Bob was worth so much more than all the high falutin’ crapola that they handed out in law school. Law professors know absolutely nothing about the real world or how to actually practice law. They live in an academic cocoon. But my friend Bob was the real world personified, complete with his own finely honed sense of justice, developed over years of dealing face-to-face with the worst in the human species.

Bob took me under his wing. He recognized that I had this shiny, wide-eyed aura about me that was sorely in need of a good tarnishing for my own good. We’d go into the jail and I’d watch amazed as he interviewed prisoners who were our new court-appointed clients, getting information from them that I never would have gleaned on my own. He showed me things about reading a police report…between the lines, as it were. He could interrogate a witness in such a way that the person would think Bob was on his side, even if he wasn’t.

Profanity was to my friend Bob the defining presence in his vocabulary. Spoken with his foghorn, pre-cancerous voice, it sounded as natural as a saw in a sawmill. Everything about Bob was old school, in the finest sense of the term. He would never have survived in the new, politically correct environment. Women were “sweetie” and “babe” and a number of other, less polite terms. Our boss, one of those terminally clean people that was afraid to shake the hands of his own clients, was a contemptible figure to Bob, who had himself lived and worked in the gutter most of his life.

What I learned from my friend Bob Adams was priceless beyond measure. I returned to the Public Defender’s Office once I graduated and, in just two years, this ex-cop realist had shown me how to actually practice criminal law. He taught me a practical, cut-to-the-chase method of working my cases so that I got more from everything that I did in less time. These were valuable lessons that I carried with me, to my unending benefit, for the rest of my career, things I might never have picked up on my own if left to my own devices.

It is impossible to overstate how much I wish that I could sit down with Bob Adams now, a cooler of Coors on ice between us, and reminisce about those days when I was a newly minted lawyer and he was a grudging, ill-tempered commentator upon the human frailties that beset us. I loved that leathery son of a bitch.


posted on May 3, 2008 9:21 AM ()

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That really touched me Steve.
I knew some old timers like that.
comment by larryb on May 11, 2008 5:33 PM ()
When things work, it's usually due to one of these guys at the crux of it.
reply by looserobes on May 11, 2008 5:53 PM ()
So nice, your words about Bob.
comment by november on May 6, 2008 5:37 PM ()
He'd laugh contemptuously if he read this...
reply by looserobes on May 11, 2008 5:51 PM ()
A special tribute to a special friend.
comment by elderjane on May 4, 2008 8:40 AM ()
Bob sure was special...and I doubt that he realized at the time how much he was doing for me.
reply by looserobes on May 4, 2008 9:55 AM ()
Reminds me of my parent's friend Bill Wolverton, who also smoked himself to death. He was a school supply salesman. I can still almost hear his laugh from 35 years ago.
comment by troutbend on May 3, 2008 2:04 PM ()
I guess that's what immortality is...
reply by looserobes on May 3, 2008 2:41 PM ()
Seems most have us have been lucky to have a friend Bob--I have written about Robert (didn't learn he preferred Robert until we had known each other 20 years!!!) who, now at 87,is still out there going door to door selling Fuller Bruh!!!
comment by greatmartin on May 3, 2008 10:40 AM ()
Geez, that's really something!!
reply by looserobes on May 3, 2008 11:42 AM ()
Beautiful tribute. He sounds like just what the world needs now but he would probably not make it in the stupid politically correct world of today. That is what is wrong with kids today, everything is sugar coated for them, they get out into the real world and life slaps them in the face. We need more people like Bob Adams.
comment by gapeach on May 3, 2008 10:34 AM ()
I appreciate your comment very much.
reply by looserobes on May 3, 2008 11:41 AM ()
sorry,that Bob is gone.Good post.
comment by fredo on May 3, 2008 10:16 AM ()
Thanks so much, Fredo.
reply by looserobes on May 3, 2008 11:40 AM ()
"Law professors know absolutely nothing about the real world or how to actually practice law." You could say precisely the same thing about education professors knowing nothing about how to actually teach. I once had an education professor who would tell us in class that a good teacher is firm, fair, and flexible. The test would then ask us to list the 3 qualities of a good teacher. He also told us that a good teacher meets his students' needs, abilities, and interests. The next test would have an item:
A good teacher meets his students' _____, _____, and _____. No wonder there are so many sorry teachers out there.
comment by miker on May 3, 2008 9:29 AM ()
You said it!! Teaching has ruined more promising students than drugs.
reply by looserobes on May 3, 2008 9:47 AM ()
comment by strider333 on May 3, 2008 9:23 AM ()

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