Last night I had a very realistic dream. It was one of those dreams that even though it was brief, it stuck with me all day long. I even found myself telling a couple people about it just because it felt sooo real.

I dreamed that my aunt in Edmonton called me and left a message, asking what time she should pick me up at the airport the next day. In my dream, I guess that I had promised to visit her, only I had forgotten all about it. I really wasn't looking forward to interrupting my week to fly out for a visit. But I knew that I had no choice in the matter... I had to go. So I was scrambling to buy plane tickets and just feeling really pressured to do something I really didn't feel much like doing.

When I woke up I felt so relieved. I even said to J twice on the way to work, "I'm so glad I don't have to fly out to Edmonton to visit my aunt, and that we can just have a nice weekend together." Nothing personal, but sometimes you're just looking forward to having no agenda. It's nice to have time and space to yourself.

Well... less than a half hour ago, J checked the messages and lo and behold, there's a message from my aunt in Edmonton. Her sister-in-law and brother-in-law will be coming into town and she wanted to know if J n' I can pick them up at their airport and let them stay here for a few days.

Okay, I don't mean to be complainy Joe... but I have that exact same sinking feeling I had in my dream. That "ugh" feeling of losing your personal space and having to be on, y'know? I have only met the sister-in-law once before, and she seemed like quite a nice lady. Actually, that's the thing... the one time I met her was when I was moving out west. My ex n' I were staying in hotels and hostels along the way, and my aunt insisted on arranging for us to stay with her sister-in-law en route to BC. We felt awkward about staying in a stranger's house, but she arranged it anyway trying to do us a favour. And naturally it was very much appreciated as it saved us money we would've otherwise spent on a hotel that night.

So that's the thing... I really do owe this lady one. But as for J... he wasn't on that road trip to BC. He's never met this lady, and neither of us have met her husband. Beyond that, J's incredibly sensitive about his personal space. He is a real anti-social guy at heart, preferring a night on the couch watching movies than hanging out with friends. J also doesn't like having obligations when it restricts his freedom... even necessities in life such as grocery shopping. He hates grocery shopping, because it cuts into his evening. So for him... this is definitely going to be a bit of a challenge -- entertaining two strangers in our house for who knows how long? A week maybe?

*sigh*

I haven't called my aunt back to confirm that it's fine... but I know I'm gonna have to soon.

Sorry, I don't mean to sound selfish... it's just awkward.

Comments:

That is odd..funny how dreams and real life can collide..

I don't think it sounds selfish at all...especially since I'm so much like J.But I do like grocery shopping.

comment by janetk on Apr 21, 2008 6:21 AM ()

I know... I like grocery shopping too... except for the part where we have to carry the bags upstairs. (I only think of this now because we did our big monthly shop tonight.) Even with the elevator, it's still a real pain in the (purple) fingers.

reply by mellowdee on Apr 21, 2008 8:51 PM ()

oh wow! They are staying with you??? I saw the part about the airport pickup, but not the staying with ya part... I feel for ya girl.

comment by kristilyn3 on Apr 20, 2008 2:08 PM ()

Yeah... very awkward. I emailed my aunt to say I'd give her a call tomorrow night to discuss the details. I'm hoping that by then her SIL & BIL will have already booked a hotel. Kind of sneaky... but... it's worth a shot.

reply by mellowdee on Apr 20, 2008 9:32 PM ()

we all need space believed me.

comment by fredo on Apr 19, 2008 6:55 AM ()

Ohhh yes... I can surrender a night or two, but anything beyond that, my space boundaries start twitching.

reply by mellowdee on Apr 20, 2008 9:34 PM ()

Obligations!!! They really can turn into bummers at times! Poor J, I understand exactly about his space and leisure time. We all need it!

comment by angiedw on Apr 19, 2008 5:05 AM ()

We sure do! I certainly need my space and leisure time, but for him it's sacred. I guess we'll see what happens.

reply by mellowdee on Apr 20, 2008 9:36 PM ()

Interesting...

comment by strider333 on Apr 18, 2008 10:34 PM ()

Indeed.

reply by mellowdee on Apr 20, 2008 9:37 PM ()