I have finally met the man of my dreams. We will call him million dollar guy. We love each other and respect each other so much.
We want to have a baby. We have been trying for about a year. nothing nada.
So I went to my gynecologist Dr. Pritzker in Manhasset NY. He recommended me to a fertility specialist Dr. Cohen. Now I love my gyno he is personable and funny. I trust him and he came highly recommended.
I saw this new doc Dr. Matthew Chen who recommended I have a FSH test, HSG test and a Sonogram.
I did all the tests and was told to come back in a month.
The month passed I went back with Million dollar guy. We walked in and this Dr. Cohen had another doctor sitting next to him. I felt I was going on trial. I immediately felt very uncomfortable.
Dr. Cohen said I had one good fallopian tube. One was closed. I had fibroids. The biggest one was 12 weeks he said.
He said the only way I could get pregnant is they have to immediately take out the fibroid. It would then take me 3 months to heal. After the surgery the good tube would then scar. I would then have no tubes for conception.
He said he will have to take me into another room to examine me to see what kind of cut I would have to have. Vertical or horizontal. He touched my stomach and exclaimed ohh I think this fibroid has gotten bigger from the last time I saw you. This was just by touching my stomach.He told me the only way he could take out the fibroid is via a vertical incision because the fibroid is so big.
I would have to have IVF there is no other way.
I cried all the way home. I couldn't sleep I couldn't eat. I called on my good friend Pam whose fiance is a Physician Assistant who was so pissed off by this doctor's comment. We all wondered why why would we have to mess up a good tube with scarring. This is 2006 we are advanced technologically. We don't do scarring etc any more and ruin a woman's body.
I was on the phone with friends until 2 am in the morning. I cried myself to sleep.

Comments:

Oh dear, oh dear. Ruddy doctors. Girl, I'd say go to another gynecologist if only you can. Get a second opinion. Why destroy the good tube? I don't get it.
The most important thing for you is not to give up, keep your head up high, and your million dollar guy close. I keep my fingers crossed for you, it'll all be alright. Even if IVF is the only way, it is still a possibility, and you will have your baby. Ears up, girl, you can do it!