]> http://greasy.com/oceanspartner/index.html oceanspartner's Blog en-us © 09:31:15 Greasy.com All rights reserved. Sun, Jul 09:31:15 6 GMT 30 http://greasy.com/oceanspartner/butterflies.html I think people are like butterflies. Some more exotic than others. Some dull, some vivid, and some extraordinary. They bless our presence and at times stay for a spell. Sometimes they leave without us noticing, and other times we watch them fly away, unable to capture them and wishing they wouldn't leave our sight, only to notice another butterfly has arrived. We can't force people to stay in our lives. Some relationships we nuture, others just nuture themselves. See the butterfly for what ... Sat, 24 May 2008 01:24:51 GMT http://greasy.com/oceanspartner/draw_line.html So here's my question... If you were in a past relationship, lets say around 10 years ago, and are in a healthy one now (or perhaps married), what are the basic "rules" in keeping in touch with the so called ex? Still have a frienship? Go out to dinner (with or without your spouse?) I knowthis is subjective and there are many perimeters or factors that could influence your decision, but lets just say that you trust eachother and are now finally happy. What are your experiences? Mon, 5 May 2008 23:28:30 GMT http://greasy.com/oceanspartner/adh__letter.html AHHHH life in our home. Never a dull moment living with boundless energy, what the professionals call ADHD. I've worked with it, diagnosed it, but living with it is a whole different being. The simplest things can become tasks. We see Doctor(s), are on medication(s), and know this is a life mission. Learning to multitask in the future. We have found puzzles to be a wonderful concentration task with good problem solving. Puzzlemania! ADHD can be a gift. We are treating it as a gift rather t ... Tue, 29 Apr 2008 17:12:06 GMT http://greasy.com/oceanspartner/doing_right_.html can be a moral dilemma can infuriate others can be life altering can change the course of events can be empowering can crush someone's spirit can spew hatred can set a chain of unfortunate events can be THE difference can help you find your way to enrich your soul Positive Energy breathes............................... Tue, 29 Apr 2008 02:31:35 GMT http://greasy.com/oceanspartner/boys_boys_boys.html We have three of them. Why is it they can't follow a simple commmand? Everything is negogiable? Every simple thing that is "black" is really "gray"? They argue and manuever for power amongst themselves. Corporate businessmen in the making. I see they start at 6,7,8 years old to become the successful business men of the future. I'm trying to reframe their actions, and do believe what I'm seeing is true....but as one of their parents, sure is frustrating. I'm not used to "fighting" over he t ... Sun, 27 Apr 2008 13:31:16 GMT http://greasy.com/oceanspartner/stupidity_contageous.html I can't believe I laughed when I watched this. Then I watched it again and laughed. After a few times of viewing this I figured out that even though this is just plain wrong, I couldn't help laughing. The end of this video with the 2 children is unacceptable. Assault comes in all different forms, this form is entertainment. Check it out for youself and voice your thoughts. It's entitled: Kicked in the nuts! Mon, 14 Apr 2008 13:58:49 GMT http://greasy.com/oceanspartner/near_death_experiences_.html I see lots of people have documented their experiences, and they all seem to have one common theme....peace, white light, drifting, and an overwhelming sense of everything is going to be okay. Not all experience, but most. I think I've had two what I would call "close calls" in my life. The first was when I was about 4 of 5 years old. I was sleeping over at my grandparents home with my mom. Dad was out of town for some reason or another. I was sleeping in the spare room in the bed with my ... Mon, 7 Apr 2008 19:56:10 GMT http://greasy.com/oceanspartner/wonderful_madison_county_judge.html This is the wonderful judge that we had the sincere torture of sitting before to hear our son's case. This judge ruled that it was in our (foster son at the time) son's best interest to be returned to his grandparents who were indicated for abusing him (DCFS did not want him returned, nor did Will County Courts). Madison County seems to be a special "black hole" of the judicial system. Funny that Metz felt it was in our son's best interest, but below you will see that he feels it's not his ... Sat, 5 Apr 2008 03:11:31 GMT http://greasy.com/oceanspartner/please_everybody.html I think that's one of the first things you learn as a therapist....not everybody is going to find you worthy. Not everybody is going to like you. Some people won't come back. Some people just won't "get it". Or maybe they see your process and delivery and don't want to get on that ride. And then there will be those others. Those people who define counter-transference. Those people who move you as you make an equally important difference in their life. Those people who look forward to your ... Tue, 1 Apr 2008 03:20:00 GMT http://greasy.com/oceanspartner/popstar.html Sun, 30 Mar 2008 05:27:39 GMT http://greasy.com/oceanspartner/save.html In my profession, they say that we will "lose" someone, sometime in our career. I'm not sure if that is true, or who said this, but it sure made me dread that day. I had a few situations that were pretty "hairy" and the people chose life. HOPE is the key. If there is hope, then there are possibilities of things getting better. Psychology seems to be a self-healing profession. Many of the Psychiatrists, Social Workers, Counselors, Therapists seem to have pretty intense "issues". Hell, I've ... Sun, 30 Mar 2008 00:08:12 GMT http://greasy.com/oceanspartner/volunteered_idiot.html Working as Management on a Psych. Ward could be a very stressful job, especially when it was time to be reviewed by the Joint Commission. If they found huge errors in record keeping or patient care, the hospital could be fined, or worse...shut down. One time we were preparing to be reviewed and had a few weeks to "review ourselves" to prepare for that stressful day. Whenever a Doctor gave an "order" the RN would log it in the patient chart and then follow through and make it happen. Usuall ... Sat, 29 Mar 2008 05:02:14 GMT http://greasy.com/oceanspartner/paging_doctors_inpatient_psych.html I never thought about it until an adult on an inpatient psych. ward shared that it is very difficult for a delusional/hallucinating person who is actively psychotic to decipher if a "page" is GOD, another voice, or something else..... Every time the intercom would page a Doctor, I would tell them that I heard that too, and it was a page for the Doctor. Most of them would smile. I think they thought I was crazy too!! But I had the keys!! PAGING DR. BONES....DR. BONES......PAGING DR. BONES.. ... Sat, 29 Mar 2008 01:47:18 GMT http://greasy.com/oceanspartner/assisting_psychosis.html On the Adult Mental Health unit there would be "Text Book" cases of a variety of adults suffering with various disorders. I was the "Manager of Psychological Social Services" and responsible for the Social Workers, Counselors, sometimes RN's and other therapy staff. One particular day, I was making my rounds and there happened to be 3 or 4 chronically, mentally ill adults that were delusional. I swear they were all staring at the TV and hallucinating. I walked in and joined them. I really ... Sat, 29 Mar 2008 01:37:47 GMT http://greasy.com/oceanspartner/practice_perfect.html I began my career as a Social worker back in 1990. I was one of the youngest MSW grads and could identify more with the kids than the parents. I was lucky to get my first job at a local Inpatient Psych. hospital. There were so many applicants going for only a few positions. Ever feel that you were in the right place at the right time? I was completing an application and this small, Irish looking, older woman walked past me and said....fine thank you , and you? I hadn't said a thing to her. ... Thu, 27 Mar 2008 21:17:52 GMT