]> http://greasy.com/shesaidwhat/index.html shesaidwhat's Blog en-us © 13:02:22 Greasy.com All rights reserved. Fri, Sep 13:02:22 5 GMT 30 http://greasy.com/shesaidwhat/it_2.html What is it about the start of a new school year that sends me into chaotic constant motion? There are clothes to sort through and then replace when I find that both my kids obviously had some growth spurt in the middle of the night and woke up the next day 3" taller than the day before. There are school supplies to buy and then more school supplies to buy. Since I have a long drive to get my kids to and from school, there is more gas being pumped into my car more frequently. Certain foods ... Wed, 3 Sep 2008 11:17:37 GMT http://greasy.com/shesaidwhat/wanna_know_cool.html Wanna know what's cool??? Going along with my two teenagers decision to wait until the afternoon, just before they go their Dads for the next 6 days, to do their chores at my house. For years, my kids have always gotten their chores done on the Friday or Saturday of their arrival to our home. Between my kids and their friends running in and out of here, eating day and night, and having the neighborhood use our guest bathroom as a public restroom, the freshly done chores and clean home were ... Wed, 27 Aug 2008 20:48:52 GMT http://greasy.com/shesaidwhat/daughter_2.html As my 15 year old daughter Sara, sorts through the fresh drama of the past weekend, I have witnessed her go from extreme moments of self doubt to strong displays of assurance and self worth. She is amazing! In My Daughter's Eyes by Martina McBride is on my profile page song playlist. It is one of Sara's and my favorite songs. It expresses the truth between us. And I am not kidding when I say I cannot get through the song or the lyrics without crying. In my daughter's eyes I am a hero I am ... Tue, 26 Aug 2008 14:19:33 GMT http://greasy.com/shesaidwhat/good_note.html Despite the ridiculous display of control and anger from my ex-husband and his wife over his family reunion drama, Mark and I managed to pull out a nice weekend with Jake and Sara. My Goddaughter Katie (my ex-husbands brother's John and wife Beth's daughter) called me from my ex-husband reunion to tell me that my ex and his wife were bringing Jake and Sara back to my house. Upon hearing this, Mark and I left where we were to come home to be with the kids. Of course the kids were upset abou ... Mon, 25 Aug 2008 12:24:00 GMT http://greasy.com/shesaidwhat/good_deed_update.html Well.... So much for trying to arrange for my children to see their Father's side of his family yesterday at my ex-husbands family reunion. It was a disaster. My ex-husband told our daughter there was construction on the way to Aunt Beth's house and that's why he couldn't/wouldn't drop her off there. (Not true even...) My daughter Sara was so upset. She felt tricked and betrayed by her Dad. My ex-husband had just agreed to let Sara go to 'HIS' brother's (Aunt Beth's husband) house, the day ... Mon, 25 Aug 2008 00:22:27 GMT http://greasy.com/shesaidwhat/good_deed.html As you may know, I allowed my kids to go with their Father, during my parenting time, to his family reunion today. The instructions were for the children's Father to Jake and Sara up from my house at 1:00pm, because my son Jacob has a hockey draft this afternoon that starts at 2:00pm. My ex-husband was supposed to drop my daughter Sara off to her Aunt's house (My ex-husband's brother and wifes house), on his way to taking our son to hockey, so that Sara could hang out with her cousins whil ... Sat, 23 Aug 2008 18:16:24 GMT http://greasy.com/shesaidwhat/back_school_thrift_store.html As with most new couples starting a family when you're young, money was tight for us. When my kids were little, I'd buy a lot of their clothing from the thrift store. My girls ran around in the sweetest dresses because I could always find them in the thrift store. Think about it... people buy dresses for their little girls... save them for a special occasion... the little girls may wear them once or twice... and then they'd end up being donated after quickly being outgrown. The dresses wer ... Sat, 23 Aug 2008 12:00:38 GMT http://greasy.com/shesaidwhat/thank_expected.html I learned this morning, from my daughter, that my ex-husband has apparently changed his mind, and is now attending his family reunion tomorrow. I'm happy about that. He hasn't been in 4 years. The kids haven't been in 6 years. This will serve to move in the direction of healing things between my ex-husband, his brothers, the brother's wives and anyone else who's toes he and his wife have stepped on over these last few torrid years. So since the kids are with me this weekend, I told Sara to ... Sat, 23 Aug 2008 01:32:40 GMT http://greasy.com/shesaidwhat/just_tell_truth.html For the last 20 years that I've been directly or indirectly involved with my ex-husband, one thing has been consistent... There is a HUGE family reunion that revolves around my ex-husbands ENTIRE family, on his Dad's side, every year. It is the exact same weekend each year, that being the weekend before Labor Day weekend. It's held in New York on odd years and in Michigan on even years. When I was married to my ex-husband, I totally looked forward to these reunions. As I've stated before, ... Thu, 21 Aug 2008 19:15:12 GMT http://greasy.com/shesaidwhat/warrantys.html We rarely RARELY buy warranty's. You know.... those things that the cashiers at Best Buy always do their spiel about at the end of the sale of a major appliance or electronic device? We don't buy them. We didn't buy one for our new stove, refrigerator and dishwasher. We didn't buy one for our washing machine and dryer. We didn't buy one for any of our TV's or DVD players. There were no warranty's purchased for any of our phones and I didn't buy one for my camera, which was a $300.00 busine ... Tue, 19 Aug 2008 18:52:31 GMT http://greasy.com/shesaidwhat/ex_factor.html I've been divorced for over 10 years now from the father of my children. It's been more than a decade since I was an "official" member of my ex-husband's family. Years, since I had the same last name of my children, my ex mother/father-in-law and my ex brother-in-laws and their wives. But there are members of my ex-husbands family that I'm still "family" with. My ex-husband's older brother John is married to Beth. John and Beth are my ex-husband's and my oldest daughter Lauren's Godparents ... Thu, 14 Aug 2008 20:51:24 GMT http://greasy.com/shesaidwhat/red_kitchen.html Years ago, I found the cutest lil' creamer in a thrift store. It was covered in tiny strawberries with lime green dots. Upon turning the piece over, I found the name of the pattern printed on the bottom to be called "Strawberry Swiss Dot". And with that lil' ole' find, two obsessions were born... Ebay ... and a ridiculously RED kitchen. After the acquisition of the strawberry creamer, I diligently searched and found, piece by piece, the rest of the entire Strawberry Swiss Dot set. I have f ... Sun, 10 Aug 2008 16:40:35 GMT http://greasy.com/shesaidwhat/back_2.html And the world is as it should be once again... Mark and I went to the grocery store this morning to fill the fridge and pantry for the kids. Jake and Sara both have a friend over today to spend the night. We've been to blockbuster to rent movies and a game for xbox. We've been to the dollar store to buy candy and old fashioned paper pop corn bags for the "movie marathon night" the kids are planning. The fridge has been opened at least 20 times. The screen door has slammed shut more than th ... Fri, 8 Aug 2008 18:21:36 GMT http://greasy.com/shesaidwhat/answer_avoidance.html I was over at Draco's blog reading his post about facial hair. It totally prompted me to "dig up" an old post. This is from October 2007 My 12 year old son's stepmother had him cornered not that long ago while she attempted to get him to answer a question about me with a response that suited her agenda of making me look bad. Side note: My ex-husband and his wife continually sign the kids that I share joint physical custody with up for nonstop sports all year long without any consent or inp ... Thu, 7 Aug 2008 21:38:02 GMT http://greasy.com/shesaidwhat/true_detroiter.html My husband and I live in the Metro Detroit area. If you are familiar with the scandal and allegations surrounding the mayor of Detroit, then you will appreciate this joke I just got via email. A guy was traveling through Mexico on vacation when, lo and behold, he lost his wallet and all identification. Cutting his trip short, he attempted to make his way home, but was stopped by the Customs Agent at the Tijuana border. 'May I see your identification, please?' asked the agent. 'I'm sorry, b ... Thu, 7 Aug 2008 15:36:32 GMT http://greasy.com/shesaidwhat/eating.html There is a Sara Lee Chocolate cake within the confines of that cake saver. I AM NOT EATING THAT! I had a Smoothie for breakfast and a wonderful lunch consisting of grilled Talipia, brown rice and a salad. Yesterday, I rode the stationary bike for about 45 minutes. I'm trying to eat healthier and take some weight off. My pants are a little loose, but I don't know how much weight I've lost because our scale is broken. That's probably just as well. I can become ridiculously obsessed with the ... Thu, 7 Aug 2008 15:12:44 GMT http://greasy.com/shesaidwhat/proud.html My 22 year old daughter is a certified medical assistant at a hospital within our community. Her apartment is actually right across the street from it, and she can walk to work, which is nice for her. Yesterday when she was working her last 16 hour shift of the weekend, she was checking the computer for possible admits to her floor, and noticed that her Grandad was down in the Emergency Room. Grandad is my ex-husbands Father. When my oldest came to live with me full time at the age of 16, ... Mon, 4 Aug 2008 15:14:52 GMT http://greasy.com/shesaidwhat/cedar_chest_memories.html There is an antique cedar chest, passed down to me from my Mother, that sits at the foot of our bed. It holds all my sentimental items from my children's baby photos, all the little pictures and gifts my kids have made me to every single card my husband has given me. Every time I lift it's squeaky lid, I am flooded with the smell of cedar and an almost overflowing collection of memories. Mark and I recently celebrated our 9 year wedding anniversary so I was putting the anniversary cards aw ... Fri, 1 Aug 2008 15:01:57 GMT http://greasy.com/shesaidwhat/gone.html My kids left on Wednesday at 5:00pm to go to their Dads for his first extended vacation with them. They won't be back with me until 9:00am next Friday (8/8). I don't think I'll make it :( Fri, 1 Aug 2008 12:08:55 GMT http://greasy.com/shesaidwhat/blame_pillow.html See that pretty little pillow, with the roses on it, gracing the middle of our bed? Well... let's just say... If my husband and I were to ever divorce... We can blame it on the pillow. I acquired that pillow from an auction on ebay. It was made from a salvaged vintage Wilender rose patterned tablecloth. I really like the way it ties our light blue gingham comforter and bedding to the little pink roses in the dark blue wallpaper, that covers the bottom half of the walls. We have a beautiful ... Wed, 30 Jul 2008 12:22:17 GMT