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Parenting & Family > Motherhood > On Separating Children from Mothers

  On Separating Children from Mothers

I'm a little upset about what's going on down in Texas with the Morman sect compound thing. At first, I thought it was good that this ultra religious group was exposed. Of course, the rumors of polygamy and early marriages then got out of hand.

Now, it's a full blown mess. DNA testing is the least of it. What really bothers me is the forced separation of the innocent children from their parents. Whether one agrees or disagrees with how these people raise their children, it's just plain wrong to split up families.

Here is another case of how the culture of our society dictates mores ("mor-ays"). The Old Order German Baptists that live in my community live a life that is different from the norm, but that doesn't mean we should be removing their children from them and ostracize their cult. That's what has happened to the Texas Adventists.

We have reversed the rule, innocent 'til proven guilty. Shame on us. How does Judge Steve feel?


posted on Apr 26, 2008 6:37 AM ()

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They should have kept the mothers and children together, and removed the
men! And after getting every one of them out, they should be forbidden
to have contact with the females ever again. And, are these men with multiple wives working to support them? It takes a lot of money to feed
and clothe that many children--bet welfare takes care of the whole bunch.
comment by susil on May 9, 2008 12:33 PM ()
This is essentially a story of some men who men believe they are entitled to sex with others who are unable to say no. Of course it's our business!
Why would we punish the children by separating them from their mothers? Is it really punishment if those mothers are teaching their children they must say yes to that sex? Women who are not in that religion are arrested and imprisoned for allowing their children to be used sexually. This is no different!
What if the men were sacrificing all 13-year-old blue-eyed-blond virgins. Would our society stand back and say, well, it's their religion...
comment by catdancer on May 2, 2008 5:26 AM ()
Those mothers aren't protecting their children, at worst they are encouraging the rape of their daughters and at best ignoring it. Our federal, state and probably local governments all have laws against child labor and child sexual abuse, so I agree with the decision to remove those children from both parents - neither one was parenting in my book. The children may be innocent now, but how long would the girls remain there if left in that situation?
comment by catdancer on May 2, 2008 5:07 AM ()
What a great discussion! It is nice to read diversified opinions expressed respectfully.
comment by frogfenatic on Apr 27, 2008 10:47 PM ()
Well, semi-respectfully, anyway!
reply by solitaire on Apr 28, 2008 11:47 AM ()
If the kids stay with their indoctrinated parents, they have no hope of ever overcoming the brain washing they've endured. After a period of treatment, if the parents accept that children should be children and deserve love, protection, care and innocence, then their children should be allowed to go back - if they choose.
comment by clovis on Apr 27, 2008 3:16 PM ()
Children raised in ultra religious environments are "brainwashed" because that's all they know. If permitted to be exposed to the "outside world" (like Amish), some may be able to break away. Although I grew up as a church goer, I saw the light--rejecting altogether religion.
I would say a vast majority of children are brought up "wrong", one way or another. And that's because parents are clueless. Shoving religion down the throats of youngsters is only part of the problem. Thanks for you input.
reply by solitaire on Apr 28, 2008 11:45 AM ()
Looserobes... it wasn't a lecture, it was a commonsense and caring paragraph. Why did you never stand for public office?
comment by clovis on Apr 27, 2008 3:14 PM ()
I abhor politics. I hate fund-raising. I'm not good at compromise.
reply by looserobes on Apr 29, 2008 11:28 AM ()
We are supposed to have freedom of religion, right? It is too bad that teenagers are bearing children but I know something about religious fanatacism. If you are born into a religion and it is impressed upon you day and night, you buy into it willingly. Just as in the situation at Waco,the government has made another mess. Just my opinion..they should have left well enough alone.
comment by elderjane on Apr 27, 2008 6:38 AM ()
You said: "If you are born into a religion and it is impressed upon you day and night, you buy into it willingly." Did you unintentionally omit the word "don't"? How can young, impressionable children "buy into it willingly" under these indoctrination circumstances? The fact is...they are unwitting pawns with no freedom of choice whatsoever. All they know is that they want to please their parents and if a 14 year old girl's own parents do not oppose her being forced to wed a middleaged man, then she can just kiss her childhood and innocence goodbye. I compare this kind of religious fervor to the parents who would sooner let a child die than permit a simple blood transfusion. In these circumstances, the state must step in and order it. Did you see Gibson's film "Apocalypto"? Would you permit continued beheadings in the name of religious freedom? The difference between that and the other two scenarios (rape of a 14 year old under in a forced marriage; death instead of reasonable medical care) is only one of degree. I don't see how we are supposed to stand by and permit such offensive, destructive behavior to continue in the name of religious freedom. It's not a matter of forcing our beliefs upon others; it's a matter of enforcing everyday, reasonable, common standards of moral behavior. That's why things such as bigamy and sex with underaged children is deemed criminal. (Sorry for the lecture...)
reply by looserobes on Apr 27, 2008 7:56 AM ()
I agree that all our laws are somehow being thrown out... innocent until proven guilty; freedom of religion... of course, the children's safety must be considered at all times, but don't you think that if warned, the moms would be especially careful, until they could be scrutinized for signs or any history of abuse?
comment by sunlight on Apr 26, 2008 5:55 PM ()
The problem is, moms are wives. And wives of these extremists are taught to be submissive. Why? The Bible says so. Intelligence and reason takes a back seat to what "the man" says. My concern remains with the love bond between mother and child, regardless of religious persuasions (brainwashing). It's a tough call.
reply by solitaire on Apr 28, 2008 11:54 AM ()
Clovis, I agree with what you're saying. I have first hand knowledge (once removed) of the harm done, but I don't think it's something that can be legislated, can it?? I don't have the answers, and I don't think anyone does... so sad.
reply by sunlight on Apr 27, 2008 7:03 PM ()








the indoctrination of children with crazy beliefs that will scar them for life should be a criminal act. To make children believe there's an invisible superman in the sky who knows their every thought and is ready to punish them for eternity in a hell of torture and torment, is not a good recipe for sanity as an adult. But I doubt if the places the government are sending them will be any better... all religionists think the same thing... until religion is declared to be something only to be practiced among consenting adults in private, there's no hope of decent government.
reply by clovis on Apr 27, 2008 3:12 PM ()
I'm just not sure of the reasoning behind the splitting up of families. Is it abuse? Polygamy? Early marriage? Religious extremism? Poor parenting? I think the govt. has the cart before the horse.
reply by solitaire on Apr 27, 2008 6:31 AM ()
Assuming they can figure out which kids go with which moms... I would then treat it as any other child welfare situation, i.e., does the mom have (a) the child's best interest at heart, and (b) the capacity to put the cult's indoctrination and bizarre beliefs aside in order to properly raise the child, and (c) the ability to independently care for her child? Failing that, I don't see how they can not utilize foster care to attempt to prepare these poor kids for the real world.
comment by looserobes on Apr 26, 2008 10:17 AM ()
In my opinion those moms have already shown they don't have the child's best interests at heart!
reply by catdancer on May 2, 2008 5:27 AM ()
Randy...I'm not sure what you mean by presuming guilt in these circumstances. The extreme fundamentalist LDS beliefs and life style have to be taken into account. That's no presumption; it's a given to which they readily (if defensively) admit. The indoctrination, severe mode of life, and early (!) compulsion of sex upon young girls (with older men) is not a presumption, it's a recognized, ongoing, time-after-time, occurance. The mothers do not protect them from any of this, which itself exhibits a failure of care by common standards. They may view it as religious persecution but to me it's no different than the idiots who refuse to permit blood transfusions for their children who end up dead as a result unless the state steps in and orders it to be done. Parents who allow this sort of thing have been blinded by their religious fervor to the reality of common, reasonable behavior in the raising of their children. (Sorry, didn't mean to rant. Bizarre behavior such as this is beyond my comprehension.)
reply by looserobes on Apr 27, 2008 7:42 AM ()
Thanks, Steve. I appreciate your take on this. Makes sense. Still, is it right to presume guilt first?
reply by solitaire on Apr 27, 2008 6:19 AM ()
ps.... I am going to start tilling my garden tomorrow! YAY!
comment by greeneyedgemini on Apr 26, 2008 9:50 AM ()
I agree about splitting the children from their moms...It is a sad story any way you look at it, and I hope it turns out well for these families!
comment by greeneyedgemini on Apr 26, 2008 9:50 AM ()
It's ironic I should be concerned about this. Maybe I have a guilty conscience about getting custody of my 4 children when I divorced their mother. The youngest ones didn't understand why they had to live with me. Maybe I'll post a blog on this someday.
And yes, get that garden prepared! I won't tell you how mine is doing!
reply by solitaire on Apr 27, 2008 6:25 AM ()
I agree, this is just bad in all sorts of ways.
comment by elfie33 on Apr 26, 2008 7:30 AM ()
I understand if parents are abusive, etc., but I don't understand the logic behind this.Hope you're doing ok.
reply by solitaire on Apr 27, 2008 6:15 AM ()

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