So I have been trying on-line dating for the past two months. Due to the fact that my previous ex and I broke up around that time. He was in the Navy, and took a job in black ops. Recently he's tried to get back into touch with me. I have been on several dates two first dates that never progressed after that, and a handful of dates with another.

This other is named M. He's younger than me, but seems to have his life in order. He's been treating me super good, i.e. bringing me flowers, calling when he says he will, being very into me. I have enjoyed being chased by him, but our chemistry is a bit off. On the one hand I have a great time with him and know that he genuinely cares for me. On the other hand he and I are not exactly shooting rockets in terms of chemistry. Can chemistry be built upon if all other things are in place? I dunno the answer to this question. Is trying to explore that chemistry further unfair? Another question I do not have the answer to.

I was supposed to go up to my aunt's house today, but she phoned me to let me know that she's out and about and that coming up with be like visiting with myself. Since I don't want to do this, I will not be driving 45 minutes to go see an empty house. I invited him over for dinner tonight and he said he had plans with his brother for dinner. I was kind of bummed especially since I am having these doubts and thoughts...

I am off to go clean up the house and do some laundry. Be incredibly jealous, this could be your life.

Happy Sunday Funday. SB

Comments:

comment by sexysadie on Feb 11, 2008 7:03 PM ()

The "rules" say you should date like a man. That way you keep your prospects open, I fully intend to do this. I thought I wanted a serious relationship, but the lack of chemistry made me think with M. I could and should have fun with this. HAHA. You too can have this much fun. I waiver between tons of confidence and not so much. I am relieved about the M situation. Stressed, disturbed, etc about the Navy D one...

reply by spicybitch on Feb 11, 2008 7:50 PM ()

Okay, I was giving this more thought. Perhaps the chemistry was thrown off by something... you could give it one more shot. But then again sleeping on the couch to avoid him seems like a really, really bad sign. eek.
Got any new leads on the dating site?

Black Ops, eh? I know a few people who do that or have in the past - it's tough on relationships.

As for the other duuude - chemistry CANNOT be created. Either it's there or it's not and it's so important. If it's not there, it never will and over time you will come to resent everything about him. Which sucks when you know you have a great person in front of you, but you just don't feel it. You are on the right path to finding the right person! You'll get there!!

comment by hawkwoman on Feb 11, 2008 12:33 PM ()

Yes, I know. He's back! Ack! I am confused and hurt... What are you going to do? Life will go on...

reply by spicybitch on Feb 11, 2008 5:14 PM ()

I just realized that I really need to clean so I am jealous... hehe
I think you should give it a little more time (I LIKE HIM) but if the chemistry isn't there then you will hafta end it. I think he is awesome though so it's worth it to see what can happen...

comment by kristilyn3 on Feb 11, 2008 7:24 AM ()

I know your opinion is duly noted and appreciated. You now know by now that it's over with M and I u

reply by spicybitch on Feb 11, 2008 5:13 PM ()

Happy Sunday to you,or this is a happy one?
Sorry,to hear about the mishap there.
I am sure that you will work this out.