A friend of mine recently told me that I am a bully. What? I was pissed off! I told her "I AM NOT A BULLY!! I JUST TELL STUPID PEOPLE WHAT IS RIGHT AND HOW TO DO IT! I left with steam coming out my ears! I slammed my car door as she waved at me with the smile on her face. I wanted to run her DOWN!

The nerve calling me a bully! I went to my other much wiser friend and told her "Can you believe SHE called me a BULLY?" She sat there are just listened. I spewed off about the victims of the world who you know it is always someone else’s fault. BOO Freakin HOO!!!

Well then she said "Well Witchy if it is bothering you that bad maybe YOU have some issues YOU have to face." I said "I know that’s why I am so PISSED!"

Then my daughter took the midnight train to Splitzville. I was so angry at HER! When she finally came home she sat down with me to talk. Without knowing I turned off my listening ears and began to shake my head no. She said something that cut me like a knife "Mom why are you so hard to talk to? There is so much I want to tell you but you can't hear me." Oh shit it is true.

The man and my sister Moses have told me before that I am hard to talk to. I couldn't hear them. They are idiots. Now with my beautiful daughter telling me with tears in her eyes she can't talk to me I can hear her.

So I am officially giving up the iron fist. Let me rephrase that, I am officially trying to stop the iron fist I have ruled with. The peasants are not happy and I fear an uprising. I am out numbered and it will be my neck on the chopping block if I don't open myself to the ones I love.

Sometimes it is hard to see what is so clear to others. I see now and I have removed the ear muffs. Now I am going to make a list that all of them have to change! What you thought I was going to be the only one?

Comments:

We all live and learn-it just stings when it comes from our children! Tomorrow is a new day!

comment by mytwoloves on Apr 23, 2008 5:58 PM ()

reply by wickedwitchofthewest on Apr 24, 2008 10:39 AM ()

It takes a big person to recognize when they might need to make a change... As long as you keep a little of that iron fisted spunk and don't go from dictator to doormat.

Look, strong women like us have to learn to rule with a velvet glove. I've learned (through multiple mistakes throughout my son's teenage years)to relax a bit and really take the time to listen. Sometimes it takes just sitting there and looking at the person and listening one word at a time. You'll be fine.

you need to calm down girl.

I am glad you are going to try!

I know that it's not funny, but you are so able to see humor in many things. Make your list; change is always easier to take if all are involved!

comment by elfie33 on Apr 21, 2008 11:28 AM ()

Thanks

reply by wickedwitchofthewest on Apr 22, 2008 10:26 AM ()